That the only person I can change is myself.
Because to a control freak like me it is very unsettling to know that I really do not have control over others behavior.
Maybe it is because I am 40 that this lesson seems to be getting easier and easier to deal with. Perhaps it is because of all the obstacles I have encountered in my life.
Either way, it is something that I am working on daily.
I can change the way I react to a person or situation. I can change the way I handle an obstacle. But...I can only change me.
P.S. I could not change that my Internet was running at turtle speed last week so I was unable to post or even check e-mail. I could not change that my kids had used so many giga-bytes playing on their iPods that the Internet company put a screeching halt to racking up any additional charges to our account (because they thought someone had hacked into our account). I could only change my reaction to this news. So, I am proud to say I did not blow up. I was calm. Amazing, huh?
lol! I remind myself of this constantly!
ReplyDeleteI don't understand why I am subscribed to you, but my face keeps falling off your followers list....lol. :-) Maybe it has something to do with your kid's ipods.....
ReplyDeleteYep, I used to also try to take this a warped step farther, "If I change myself ENOUGH I can control them...I can get the result I want from them by how I change myself" *sigh* It's hard to let go of. Realizing I can't control anyone else is freeing and painful all at the same time. :-)
Ugh, it's a hard lesson... but I have to remind myself of this alllll the time. lol
ReplyDeleteGlad you're back! Missed you. :)
I say this all the time. I lived my entire childhood with my mom trying to 'change' my dad into a better husband/father/person. Never worked. now I try to focus on just me. What can I do to change?!
ReplyDeleteGreat post!