I know I have mentioned this before but, the hubs and I are both banded. We were banded within a month of each other. Me first then him.
We have been on this little banded journey together since the beginning. At times it is nice to have someone who "gets it" living with in the same house. Other times? Not so much.
Our banded journeys have been very different. I blog about mine and leave his journey out. Mainly, because it is his journey not mine. But, also because we do not have the same theory or use our bands in the same way.
I use my band for appetite control. As long as I am not starving, I can usually walk away or at least have control over my cravings. Him? Not so much. He uses his to restrict what he eats and depends on the band from stopping him eating what in his opinion are "bad" foods.
Is either one of us wrong in how we use our band?
No. I don't believe so. I think I was at a different place in my journey than him. That I was completely ready to change my mind and habits. He will always struggle with the "head hunger".
I also do not think that if I had been banded years ago I would have been as successful as I was now. I just wasn't ready emotionally to deal with all the head games that come from weight loss.
Anyway, last night I asked him why he thinks he still struggles with all the head hunger. His answer: You just have more willpower than I do.
I think that we were just at different places emotionally when we got banded. I was ready to change and to completely re-work all my bad habits. Him? Not so much. It will probably take him a little longer to break his ingrained habits.
This is what is comes down to: the willingness to change.
The willingness to lose the old habits and replace them with new ones.
Change is not an option. Change is a necessity.