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I am a 39 yr. old stay at home mom to 3 girls ages 10, 9 and 7. My goal is to be fit by 40! I want to lead a healthier lifestyle. I was banded on 4/5/2011. I tend to be a bit on the sarcastic and cynical side. I love to read, hate to excersise (but am learning to tolerate it!), love to shop and want to smack anyone who is a size 2 (not really!). I am learning to work with my band and my new self one day at a time!

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Tuesday, May 15, 2012

Quit Beating Yourself Up

Early in my journey I realized I was going to have to change the way I think. 

I used to chastise myself when I made bad food choices.  It was as if I was justified in my disgust for myself because I continually fell short of my expectations.

It was a vicious cycle.

I had to change the way I viewed food and my relationship with it.  Either that or this was going to be another failed attempt.

I couldn't afford another failure.  Both mentally and physically.  

Now, there are no "BAD" foods.  Just "sometimes" foods and "always" foods. 

You see, I think we make the mistake of labeling food as the enemy.  When in fact, we are our own worst enemies.  Our hands that put the food in our mouths are the culprits.  Our brains that make us have the dreaded "head hunger" work against us.  Willing us to fail.

But, you can change that.

You have the power to break the cycle.  To stop beating yourself up.

We all make choices.  Sometimes, my choices consist of M & M's and Doritos.   Sometimes, my choices are Greek yogurt or a string cheese.

One day does not make or break your journey.

I promise.

Food does not have any power over you unless you let it.

If you make a choice that you are unhappy with, do not dwell on it.  Move on.  Look forward., not backward.

Quit beating yourself up.


  1. If everyone had this same mentality (that I totally share, by the way!) we would all be SO much better off! Thank you for writing this. :)

  2. For serious!!!! I have told many people "If you think my body looks better you haven't seen my brain --- it looks amazing!!" That's not to say that I don't still have plenty of issues in other parts of my life but one of my biggest accomplishments (I think) is that I no longer waste so much emotional energy beating the shit out of my self over food and weight. It's amazing to me how much emotional energy I have now to give to those that I love a care for now that I am not wasting it on food/weight self abuse. Great post!!!

  3. very well said....I think I needed the reminder more than ever today!

  4. You hit the nail on the head......this is what I have been preaching for months and months!!

    There are no BAD foods, and if you want it bad enough, eat it, then work it off!! Simple but it works!

    Thanks for posting this!

  5. Thanks for the post - this is something that I am working on!

  6. Oh Brenda... Although you posted this before me today I feel like you posted this just for me in response to my post! I needed this :)

    1. I just posted a link to this on my blog facebook page www.facebook.com/thedandybandy

  7. Great post! Hey, I'm *Maria*.... better known as DiZneDiVa@yahoo.com, Confessions of a Cupcake Addict. Heather sent me... Well, I was banded 2 years ago and I lost 125 pounds so far. I look forward to following your journey. danceofthesugarycupcakes.blogspot.com