For years, I neglected myself. I let my health deteriorate. My needs went on the back burner to the needs of my kids, husband and friends. I think we as women, being the caregivers, sometimes find there is little to no time for ourselves and the things we love. Some selfishness is okay. In fact, it makes us better moms, wives and friends when we are happy, content and take care of ourselves.
I have a friend that I really admire. Since I met her, 8 years ago I have noticed she has no problem telling people "no". She makes time for herself. Whether it is a night out with girlfriends, time at the gym, an evening away from her kids, she never feels guilty about having "me" time. She is also one of the most loving and caring people I know. She takes care of herself, her family and friendships beautifully. Is there a selfish bone in her body? No. She just knows in order to be a better person sometimes she has to put herself first.
That is what I have been missing all these years..............selfishness. Not the bad kind of selfishness. The kind of selfishness that makes me take care of myself. To know that I need "me" time. To be okay putting myself first sometimes in order to be a well developed person.
For years I have worn the badge of "martyr". I have resentfully given of myself and my time in order to take care of others needs. What I needed what a selfish intervention.
Insert Lap-Band here.
Yeah, it is the first thing I have done for myself in a long time. It is also the first "selfish" thing that I have ever done that will actually save my life. And that is not selfish. In fact, it is one of the least selfish things I can think of. My kids will get to enjoy an active happy mom. My husband has a new empowered wife. I can be a better friend because I actually
The other day, when I was trolling FB, I found this quote posted on a friends wall:
So, my "selfish" time is every morning from about 7:30 to 10:00 a.m. When I can be found working out (by the way, I turn my cell phone off until 10).
Feel free to leave a message after the beep. I will be busy taking care of myself.